Backport of Decouple xds capacity controller and raft-autopilot into release/1.18.x (#20551)

* backport of commit 1668a314c6

* backport of commit d33eda97be

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Co-authored-by: Derek Menteer <derek.menteer@hashicorp.com>

.changelog/20511.txt

@@ -0,0 +1,3 @@
+```release-note:bug
+connect: Remove code coupling where the xDS capacity controller could negatively affect raft autopilot performance.
+```

agent/consul/xdscapacity/capacity.go

@@ -15,6 +15,7 @@ import (
 	"golang.org/x/time/rate"
 
 	"github.com/hashicorp/consul/agent/structs"
+	"github.com/hashicorp/consul/lib/channels"
 	"github.com/hashicorp/consul/lib/retry"
 )
 
@@ -72,7 +73,7 @@ type SessionLimiter interface {
 func NewController(cfg Config) *Controller {
 	return &Controller{
 		cfg:      cfg,
-		serverCh: make(chan uint32),
+		serverCh: make(chan uint32, 1),
 		doneCh:   make(chan struct{}),
 	}
 }
@@ -109,9 +110,9 @@ func (c *Controller) Run(ctx context.Context) {
 // SetServerCount updates the number of healthy servers that is used when
 // determining capacity. It is called by the autopilot delegate.
 func (c *Controller) SetServerCount(count uint32) {
-	select {
+	if err := channels.DeliverLatest(count, c.serverCh); err != nil {
-	case c.serverCh <- count:
+		// This should not be possible since only one producer should ever exist, but log anyway.
-	case <-c.doneCh:
+		c.cfg.Logger.Error("failed to deliver latest server count to xDS capacity controller")
 	}
 }